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October 27, 2011

I’m migrating to Tumblr

I’m in the process of migrating to Tumblr…….the blog will now be hosted at this address:

I will miss you wordpress…..

September 19, 2011

I’m losing the battle with television….

Look I like TV. I grew up on TV. I’m not someone who thinks TV is the devil. BUT I don’t want it on all the time. I don’t want my kids to wake up and immediately start figuring out what show they want to watch. I don’t want them to ask to watch TV instead of going outside and running around. So I’m going to attempt to wean us all from the TV and video games and iPhone games which my 4 year old is now addicted to. How I am going to do this is beyond me. I’m going to start planning A LOT of activities and projects and prepare to be mentally exhausted. Keeping up with the energy levels of a 2 and 4 year old is not easy!

So here are a couple of recent projects which occupied their attention for about an hour tops.

First we made terrariums. I loved these as a kid. Found a cool tutorial online at Craftzine.

Alonzo thought making a dino forest was pretty cool. Clara loved dumping the pebbles and potting soil all over the table.

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September 10, 2011

I can’t believe it has been 10 years…

10 years ago today was the hardest day of my life. I lived and worked in New York City and sent the email below to friends and family on Sept. 12 with my account of the day.

The photo above was taken by my co-worker Nick as we watched the chaos from our office.

If you are interested in my email read it here:

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September 4, 2011

I’m channeling my grandmother’s spirit….

I’m learning to sew!

Grandma Rafi was a seamstress, among her many self-described talents, and I have been telling everyone I wanted to learn how to sew FOREVER! Well, I finally sat down and started this summer when I inherited my grandmother’s Pfaff sewing machine and had the guidance of my mother-in-law who was visiting. I’m on my fourth project so far and I must say I’m enjoying every minute of it. Once I sat down and started operating the machine memories flooded back to me…sitting beside my grandmother as she sewed me a dress, trying to stand still as she had me try on half sewn pieces (those pins hurt if you move too quickly!), and my favorite, her tugging at my waist, shoulders, chest, or ahem crotch (Grandma!)…to make the piece fit right….

Anyway I thought I didn’t know how to sew, was considering a class, but once I got my hands on the tools I felt really at ease. Maybe grandma’s Rafi’s spirit is being channeled into my hands through her sewing machine. Maybe its a reminder of simpler times or maybe the beginning of a lifelong hobby…I’ll keep you posted.

August 30, 2011

I’ve been away….

…..from my blog for too long. Here’s why.

My grandmother Rafi passed away in May. That was two months after my grandfather Dick died in March. The day he died my grandmother fell and was hospitalized. Being preoccupied with Dick’s passing we didn’t check in on my grandma that weekend and when the paramedics found her in her front yard she gave them her maiden name. That meant no one knew who she really was and they listed her as homeless at the hospital. By the end of the weekend a neighbor tracked me down and we ran over to the hospital to see her. She was banged up but okay. Long story short she had been going downhill for awhile and this was the beginning of her final moments with life. The next two months she spent going from a nursing home to 24 hour care at home to Sunrise, an assisted living facility we had been considering for my mom. She was there one week and then we got the call. My dad and I rushed over to find her passed away, comfortably, in her sleep. When he and the the man from the crematorium lifted her body she was still warm underneath. The man wore all black and took her away into the night. That was the last time we saw her.

And for my mom, her condition has progressed. She spent a few weeks in Texas with my aunts in June while my dad went to a wedding in Europe and we took the kids to my niece’s graduation in Indiana. Texas was a nightmare. My mom had come down with a UTI which caused her to hallucinate and she was out of her mind. My aunts took her to the hospital and the doctors there claimed her problems were from the anti-psychotics she takes. They released her several days later without having fully cleared up the UTI. My brother flew out to drive her back home because there was no way she could get on a  plane. He and my aunt Dianne made a very long two day journey from Texas to LA with a babbling, weepy, hallucinating woman in tow. I spoke with them several times on their long road trip and it was heartbreaking. When my Dad returned he was shocked to see my mom so out of sorts. He said for 36 hours she was in this crazy state of panic and weeping. Then she fell. She hit her head on the shower curb and passed out. My dad had her rushed to Cedars Sinai. She spent about a week there where they determined she still had the UTI and that is was the main culprit behind the paranoia. They adjusted her meds and monitored her and informed us they believe she has Fronto-Temporal Dementia, not EOAD. The final destination is the same, so the diagnosis doesn’t change much for me. With the danger she posed to herself, my dad felt it was time to move her into assisted living and she has now been at Sunrise for two months. Across the hall from my grandmother’s room. There are many stories at Sunrise so I will stop here and share them soon.

May 14, 2011

I often find myself in ridiculous situations

Photo Courtesy Romleys on flickr

Take yesterday morning. I work five minutes away from my home and it took me 30 minutes to get gas on the way to work yesterday, yes 30 minutes…..

Here’s how it happened…..after finally cajoling the kids back to sleep I snuck out of my house at 7:30 to get to work. On the way I planned to get gas as the corner gas station. I pull up and realize I left my debit card on the counter at home…this place only accepts debit or cash…. cash on hand… 25 cents ( wow that will get me 1/20th of a gallon!).

I absolutely cannot return home and risk waking the kids….what kind of a crazy person would even consider that?! So I start her up and head to another station that I know accepts credit cards. I pull up and then realize they don’t take American Express which is the only card I have activated in my wallet….crap! I frantically search my wallet and find an unactivated Visa card that has been sitting there for oh I don’t know….7 months or so? I feel like I’ve struck gold! So I quickly call to activate it (thank god my cell phone is charged) but am told my phone number doesn’t match their records….oh that’s right we disconnected our home phone about 6 months ago! After several minutes I finally get someone on the line who asks me a host of questions including offering to upgrade this card to a Bank of America American Express, can you believe it? After I politely decline the offer, my card is activated and I am finally able to pump gas. As I swipe the card however, panic runs through me, is this the slippery slope I have tried to avoid with credit cards…..? The reason I don’t use ’em is I don’t want to abuse ’em, know what I mean? The day before this I took my son to the dentist and found out he has 5 cavities that need filling (I promise you we brush his teeth regularly) and that it will take three visits to fill them all at a price tag of $200-$250 for each cavity, OUCH! I’ve been up all night agonizing about how to pay for this (the dentist also does not accept American Express) and the first thought that runs through my mind as I’m pumping the gas is, “Hey, I’ll just charge it to the Visa!”. I knew activating this card was a bad idea…….

30 minutes later I finally arrive at work, only to realize I left some important paperwork at home, also on the counter. At least by this time the kids are probably up!